Dancing Hearts

Exploring What Makes An Enduring Relationships This Valentine's

Spotlight: Dancing Hearts
By Nicoloco · Feb 02, 2024

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Hi there dance friends!

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Dance Quote: “Everyone thinks of mastering the dance, but no one thinks of letting the dance master them.”

Inspired by Leo Tolstoy

Ah, February, the month where love is in the air, despite the chill that might be on the breeze. Ever wonder who decided that the shortest, and often coldest, month should be the one dedicated to warm embraces and expressions of love? I mean, wouldn't summer be a more convenient choice? Easier outfit selections, for one thing!

But let's move away from the weather chat. As a dance instructor, my days are filled with rhythm, movement, and, most importantly, exploring the connections between people. This got me thinking about the essential elements that weave together to form the fabric of a lasting, loving relationship. Among the many, one stood out to me, perhaps because it resonates so closely with the essence of dance: emotional intelligence.

Diving into this concept has been a journey of discovery, not just in understanding the steps and motions of dance on a deeper level, but also in articulating what I often do instinctively. So, as we step into the season of love, let's glide through the nuances of what makes relationships endure and flourish, both on the dance floor and beyond. Ready to dance through the insights with me?

Emotional intelligence encompasses the ability to understand, manage, and effectively express one's feelings, as well as engage and navigate successfully with those of others. This trait is essential for several reasons in a relationship. I would like to explore how it plays out in a non-verbal, physically collaborative activity like a partner dance.

1. Empathy: Understanding and being sensitive to your partner's feelings and emotional needs is a key part of emotional intelligence. This empathy fosters a deeper connection and mutual respect.

Empathy in Dance

  • Sensing Partner's Comfort: Being attuned to your partner's comfort level, tension, and mood through their body language and responsiveness.

  • Adjusting Movements: Modify your dance style and movements to accommodate your partner’s skill level and preferences.

  • Emotional Connection: Creating an emotional connection through the dance, understanding and responding to the feelings that the music and movement evoke in your partner.

2. Conflict Resolution: Handling conflicts more constructively. Recognizing and respecting each other's perspectives can lead to healthier ways of resolving disagreements.

Conflict Resolution in Dance

  • Non-Verbal Communication: Using non-verbal cues to navigate and negotiate movement, leading and following smoothly without verbal instruction.

  • Resolving Missteps with Understanding: Addressing missteps or mismatches in rhythm with patience and understanding, working together to get back in sync, similar to resolving conflicts through constructive dialogue.

  • Synchronizing Movements: Actively working to align your movements with your partner's, ensuring that both of you move in harmony, even if it means changing your own rhythm or pattern.

  • Empathetic Adjustment: Adjusting movements and style to accommodate each other’s comfort and abilities, showing empathy and consideration.

3. Self-awareness and Self-regulation: Being aware of one's own emotions and knowing how to control them helps prevent unnecessary stress or conflict in a relationship.

Self-Awareness and Self-Regulation in Dance

  • Recognizing Personal Emotions: Being aware of your own emotions during the dance and understanding how they can affect your movements and interactions with your partner.

  • Controlling Responses: Managing your emotional responses, especially in challenging or unexpected situations, to maintain a positive and constructive dance environment.

  • Adapting to Changes: Being open and flexible to changes in the dance, whether it's in the music, rhythm, or your partner's style, and adjusting your approach accordingly.

4. Communication Enhancement: It enables one to express their feelings more clearly and understand their partner's emotions better.

Showcasing a moment of deep connection & understanding between two dancers

Communication Enhancement in Dance

  • Expressing Intentions Clearly: Utilizing body language, eye contact, and touch to convey your next move or intention in the dance, making it easier for your partner to follow or lead.

  • Active Listening with the Body: Paying close attention to each other's physical cues and movements, which is akin to active listening in verbal communication, ensuring a harmonious dance.

  • Fostering Mutual Understanding: Developing a mutual understanding over time, where less explicit communication is needed to execute complex movements or routines.

5. Support and Compassion: In times of stress or difficulty, emotional intelligence allows partners to provide the right kind of support and understanding to each other.

Support and Compassion in Dance

  • Showing Emotional Support: Demonstrating empathy and understanding when your partner is struggling, offering encouragement and reassurance.

  • Celebrating Efforts: Acknowledging and appreciating your partner's efforts and achievements in the dance, fostering a sense of teamwork and mutual respect.

  • Offering Physical Support: Providing the necessary physical support during lifts, spins, or challenging moves, ensuring your partner feels safe and confident.

See you soon on the dance floor, cheers!

Where Can I Dance Tonight?

• Tonight, Friday, February 2nd: Friday Night Salsa Fix (FNSF) in Guelph
• Saturday, February 3rd: SalsaSoul Saturdays meets Fairweather Brewing in Hamilton
• Wednesday, February 7th: Guelph Kizomba Night in Guelph
• Friday, February 16th ‘Will You Be Mine’ theme party in Guelph
• Saturday, February 17th: Guelph West Coast Swing Valentine’s Party in Guelph

In February ‘24

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